How do we raise a child in a lesbian household?
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I am in a lesbian relationship and me and my lover are going to move in together for the first time. We are wondering if you had any ideas on how to raise a daughter in a lesbian household? My daughter is two years old. We would appreciate the help thanks in advance
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kristi said:
just love her.
March 6th, 2010 at 3:39 am -
chnchita said:
Be honest, be open, be loving, be there for her, always, and you should be fine
March 6th, 2010 at 4:13 am -
Joci said:
what a lucky girl! normal parenting advice: do your best and love your kiddo.
March 6th, 2010 at 4:22 am -
~Ashley|Johnson~ said:
one of you should look like a man and then leave the other look like a woman and then act normal
March 6th, 2010 at 4:54 am -
StarsNeverRise said:
Everything a child gets from a heterosexual household.
Read to her, play with her, bathe her.
It is important that the two of you spend as much time as possible together with her.
It will probably get difficult as she goes into school.
There will be fathers day, what does dad do for work and stuff like that and she may get teased, but just remember to let her know that the two of you love each other and you both love her.March 6th, 2010 at 5:53 am -
brandy said:
i dont think a lesbian relationship is any diff then a man an women …its all about showing her that she is loved by both of you!!! good luck
March 6th, 2010 at 6:52 am -
versantly said:
why should you raise your child any differently than i raise mine??? take some parenting classes.
March 6th, 2010 at 7:22 am -
gothika said:
just love her, be honest to her, be a happy family for her, and things will be just fine.
you’ll have to explain everything to her before she goes to school tho. she has to understand that despite not having a father figure, you are still a complete family. and there’s no way anyone can judge her family for being different.
it can be a grandma, a poodle, a young boy, and a walrus living together –as long as there’s love and care for one another — that’s a family in my book.
cheers!March 6th, 2010 at 7:37 am -
concerned1 said:
Read the Bible to her every night at bedtime.
March 6th, 2010 at 8:00 am -
iamthebabysitter said:
Be honest, be open, be loving, be there for her, always, and you should be fine
March 6th, 2010 at 8:09 am -
Helen C said:
Teen Children of Lesbian Parents
This is the first study to look at adolescents and how same-sex parents affect their abilities to adjust to certain factors like school GPA, self-esteem, depression and connectedness to their peers. Patterson, who has headed other studies about gay and lesbian families, says, “If there’s a time when people are going to wonder if kids are going to be okay, it’s when they’re in their teenage years.”In comparison to heterosexual-headed families, teenagers in same-sex headed families fared just as well in all the areas studied. As a matter of fact, the most important determining factor whether a child is well adjusted or not has to do with their relationship with their parents. The children who reported a good relationship with their parents were better adjusted socially, regardless of their mom’s sexual orientation.
Because the study was so large, for the first time researchers had access to a very diverse pool of families from which to draw information. “It is a national sample and as a result it is more diverse. It’s like a random sample of American teenagers who are in school,” says Patterson. “The virtue of data set is, data is data. There’s no way we could have biased it… The message of the study is what’s important to kids is their relationship with their parents… I say this research gives no warrant for discrimination against lesbian parents and their children.”
Key Findings of the Study:* Children of lesbian parents develop as well as children of opposite-sex parents.
* Teens of lesbian parents have similar dating habits and romantic relationships as children of heterosexual parents.
* Teens raised in lesbian homes showed no more signs of depression, anxiety or low self-esteem than those raised in heterosexual-headed households.
* Adolescents raised with lesbian moms actually felt more connected at school than those raised by opposite-sex parents.
* The most important factor for adolescents in being well-adjusted, regardless of who raised them, was a close relationship with their parents.In Conclusion
The authors of the study conclude that a parent’s sexual orientation should have no bearing on child welfare laws, child custody or visitation.
Source: Child Development - Psychosocial Adjustment, School Outcomes, and Romantic Relationships of Adolescents With Same-Sex Parents Jennifer L. Wainright, Stephen T. Russell, Charlotte J. Patterson Year 2004, Volume 75, Issue 6, Page 1886March 6th, 2010 at 8:51 am -
Martin the baby said:
hide your love and private life from her, just behove normaly, dont worry
March 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
